Passing judgment is something that we all do, whether by instinct or not.
Of course, not all judgment is bad, but when we pass judgment, it can put into question something else. Something that is closely related to judgment: our perception of ourselves.
Now I know a lot of people will say that we should move on and not care about what people think and say about us. That advice is shared quite often.
But one can also argue the same thing for positions or awards.
People can stop caring whether or not you won awards or amassed success. It’s these kinds of things, plus our actions that define who we are.
The truth of the matter is, whether we like it or not, we are conscious ofour image on some level.
Even for those uncaring types, they care about some aspects of their image. It’s in our nature.
You can even say it’s why we pick the certain clothes that we wear and live the life that we want.
The only difference is the fact that those who don’t care as much feel more freedom. They are building an image of themselves for themselves.
But here are some other reasons why how we view ourselves matters.
It Affects Our Confidence Level
Stay positive and happy. Work hard and don’t give up hope. Be open to criticism and keep learning. Surround yourself with happy, warm and genuine people. — Tena Desae
In my first post, I talked about the power of positive self-talk and how that can boost our self-esteem and confidence. This positive self-talk is a view of ourselves and can actually be passed down by our parents.
Think about it.
When you make a mistake, you tell yourself how clumsy or stupid you were. Things like “I’m so forgetful,” “I’m stupid,” and more. Sure you might not be saying that a lot, but we do have a tendency to say that in those circumstances.
What’s more important though isn’t what we say, but why we say it.
We say that because our parents said it when we younger. Those words as a child clung to us and are now part of our speech patterns. They may not have said that directly to us, but even overhearing can reinforce this behavior.
This is also true with affirmations. We can view ourselves as bright intelligent people if our parents told us we were smart intelligent people. And sure that’s a whole other can of worms with science studies saying we should avoid telling our kids certain things.
Yes, there is some truth to that, however, we still need to be affirming ourselves. Telling ourselves that we are smart.
But it’s through these affirmations that we begin to grow and change our self-image day by day for the better.
It Allows Us To Discover Ourselves
Love yourself. It is important to stay positive because beauty comes from the inside out. — Jenn Proske
How we view ourselves is grounds for who we want to become.
Naturally, we all have flaws. We can certainly find people that can tolerate or compliment our flaws nicely, but in order to discover this, we need to learn about ourselves.
It’s important to find those flaws and the only way to know that is to get ourselves out there.
We need to discover…
Who we are;
What our interests are;
What our motivators are;
One does not simply learn about themselves by coasting through life, never leaving their comfort zone.
It Affects What We Attract
Naturally how we view ourselves does affect what we attract on our lives.
As I mentioned before with the law of attraction, how we view ourselves and what we say attracts what we want in our lives.
To leverage it, it’s a matter of practicing affirmations, positive self-talk, but also taking action. As such how we view ourselves affects what we say, and how convincing we are of our affirmations. Paired with action, this is how we attract things in our lives.
Our realities are what we make of it.
To change them is a matter of changing ourselves and how we view certain things in our lives.
Imagine, you can change your entire life around if all you do is change how you approach things in your life and how you view yourself.
To your growth!
Eric S Burdon
This post is part of an 3 month writing challenge that I’m committing myself to. Every day for 3 months, I’ll be writing articles with specific criteria in mind. You can learn all about my reasoning as well as what that criteria is right here. This is 23 of 91 of this series.
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