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5 Reasons To Do Less Supporting
Sometimes the best way to help someone is to not answer their pleas.
By the time I turned 13, I was already on the internet devoting my time and energy to helping people little by little. After experiencing my own depression episode, I found solace in being able to help other people that were in similar spots to me. Whether it was with dating or emotional support, I was the type of guy people confided in and sought advice from and I was happy to deliver it.
As I continued to help more and more people, there was a sense of gratification from the work. I found joy in the fact I was needed and that I was valued. I even discovered more about myself and who I was.
I was naive and I didn’t want to admit that to myself.
I was an escapist and I refused to acknowledge it.
I was a hypocrite, refusing to take my own advice and strive to make a change in my life despite urging others as I grew older.
We like to think of helping other people as a selfless act. It’s a generally good thing to be doing. Time and time again, study after study finds helping people is a good idea to do.
You get a nice “helper’s high.”
