Are You Out Of Your Rut Yet?
A powerful question that adds a lot of perspective to your growth.
For the first time in a long time, my parents took me out to breakfast. It’s not very often that we dine out as a family. With my dad running his own business as a violinist, it can be hard for him to make up the time.
Not to mention, dining out on the regular can have some health concerns as well.
But nevertheless, these are opportunities for me to talk to my parents, an opportunity that’s pretty rare for me. Even if I’m living with them, I’m still hard at work and don’t always have the chance to really sit down and chat.
These opportunities also bring up the opportunity for my parents to ask me about my work and where I’m going.
And it’s these types of conversations that I find very meaningful.
Here is why.
It Gives You Pause
The first biggest thing is that it forces you to pause and think back to what’s happened. In my life right now, my parents don’t really know much about my progress.
I don’t talk about it openly, but I also think they don’t read a lot of the articles that I post. My father has Facebook but he’s not on it constantly and my mother has been incredibly slow adopting any form of technology.
So for me, asking this question allows me to pause.
It’s an opportunity to look back at everything that I’ve done.
It’s not common for us to pause and reflect on the progression of our goals or our lives. We are constantly moving forward. And those ideas sink even further when we’re entrepreneurs.
We focus on hitting our goals and doing our tasks day in and day out. We don’t think about the momentum that we’ve built up or about the growth we’ve experienced.
In January I made $800 from writing.
I wouldn’t have even noticed that if I didn’t actually pause. And while that’s not much, it is the most I’ve ever earned in a month from writing.
And neglecting that would’ve been a shame.
It Lets You Reinvest Your Emotions
Last month was a bit bumpy for me. I lost a few clients and the ones I have right now aren’t asking for as many articles as my previous clients. I’m anticipating that February won’t be as lucrative.
And obviously I feel a bit sad and a bit stressed about that. But at the same time, I’m excited. I earned a lot of money and it came down to me working hard.
By reflecting off of this question, it allows me to reinvest the emotions that I want to experience.
We all have bumpy roads and some months just suck. But there is always some positive aspects to it. You simply need to pause and look around. And it’s from those opportunities where we get to put those positive emotions back in.
We get the opportunity to remind ourselves that this is why we’re doing this. And the best reminder is going back and experiencing those positive emotions despite the rough parts.
It’s A Sign People Care
Sure it’s my parents we’re talking about here, but it still is nice. When I first started my business, they were pushing me to look for a job as an accountant. In other words, they didn’t feel like I was meant for this.
The fact they’re coming around to asking me now means that they care about my efforts. That they have some level of belief in me.
And on the long road, hearing this question is meaningful. You need as many people invested in you as possible. It means you can’t let them down.
Even asking the question to yourself is powerful because it shows you’re invested in yourself. It means that you believe in the work you are doing. You feel like you’re in the right spot.
And if you’re not, this question provides a good way for you to see what you can change.
Starting to care is a sign that people are invested in you and your cause and it’s the strongest form of momentum you can leverage.
It Tells You What You Need To Do Next
For me, this question puts me into a state of mind where I’m “taking inventory.”
I think about the good things that have happened, the problems I’ve run into, but also what I plan to do to fix it.
With my lack of clients, I’ve decided to double down on Medium. I want to be writing more and more articles on here.
I also am pushing myself to tie up a few other projects as well as networking. I’d like to build more relationships that I hope I can keep up more consistently.
All in all, this question can paint you a road map for what you need to do next. Because it forces you to be present. You can’t be looking to the future the entire time when thinking about how you’d answer this question.
Your answers would stem from a solution you’d do moving forward based off of your current circumstances.
So this question really forces you to be present and to look at what you can do right now to fix things.
So are you out of your rut yet?