Diving Into Self Improvement? Don’t Be Like These People
There are billions of people out there in the world each with unique personalities. However there are particular kinds of people who have similar traits that set themselves up to be failures in business and in life. Today I’ll be going over a few of them and explain why their mentalities aren’t fit for self-improvement and they will fail eventually.
Personal development - to improve oneself - is ultimately a choice.
People aren’t born with deeper understanding than others.
There is no genetic advantage when it comes to personal development.
We are just as lost about ourselves as everyone else.
Until we decide to learn about ourselves.
This is a lifelong endeavour as we are always growing, always changing. We adapt to the environment around us both physically and mentally.
But one thing is certain about self improvement and life. In order to succeed, to truly succeed, we need to have a growing mindset.
We see this with the minds of successful individuals like Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg, and Richard Branson who have a particular routine, but also continue to learn.
Mark Zuckerberg can speak a variety of languages and it’s all thanks to him paying for tutors to teach him.
Bill Gates reads a book for 30 minutes on his industry every day.
Richard Branson reads the news and writes quality information on his blog every day. He stays current and learns at the same time.
Indeed these people are consuming information and growing little by little every day. Even though they are worth millions, even billions of dollars.
They’re still improving themselves.
All that being said, there are many different mindsets that get in the way.
They can cause problems in many different ways and they can ultimately ruin you.
The mindsets I’m talking about below are individuals who approach self improvement with this mindset. So already they are at a disadvantage as opposed to someone who is open.
The problem with these mindsets is that these individuals aren’t willing to change. No doubt everyone has flaws, however personal development is trying to understand those flaws and work with them.
People can change. However you will need to put some effort into that change when you are one of these kinds of people.
There have been many thieves throughout history and even in our lives today. There are people who will take the credit and glory after you’ve worked hard on creating something helpful.
There are those who will flat out steal your ideas and plagiarize your work. Whether that’s a business idea, a speech, or written or recorded content.
In many films, thieves can be portrayed as these rebellious and cool individuals, however in the real world it’s a little different.
Yes these individuals will succeed. Early in Tony Robbins’ career as a speaker, there were people who stole his work. He was bothered by it but eventually he stopped caring.
The reason is these individuals, the thieves, will only gain short term success.
Yes they will look good again and again, but they are missing out on a number of things that’ll set them up for failure.
The main reason is they lack the emotional fortitude for success. To truly succeed is to grow continuously. To challenge your current mindset day after day.
Yes stealing Tony Robbins ideas or speeches can grant you success and is a short cut.
But how long can you keep it up?
Because Tony Robbins has been through hell and back.
He’s faced several difficult things in his life that no typical person would if they stuck to a straight and narrow path.
He has the emotional strength to move through the storms and succeed at each trial that presents itself.
This is why he is successful. He refuses to take an easy route or shortcuts.
The same applies to stealing ideas from co-workers or people below you. You don’t know the specific details quite like they do.
It may not be obvious at first, but eventually it’ll be noticeable.
Thieves lack their why to be successful.
Quitters or the complainers, never truly grow themselves.
They dwell on past mistakes or the past in general and refuse to make changes in their lives. They shift the blame or complain about things out of their control.
Their reasons may be well founded, however life is filled with failures.
One must fail in order to see success.
Regardless of how sheltered you are, you will experience failure one way or another. Failure is inevitable in every single thing you do.
Because at the end of the day, you will have to move on with life. Life will force you out and push you out into the world. You will have to learn to fail.
“Quitters never win; and winners never quit.”
It’s a simple saying I’ve heard over and over again and I believe it. Quitters always lose because they give up. They take the easy route.
Those individuals grow, but it’s stifled. Like working a dead end job, you’ll grow short term, but you’ll reach that peak very quickly.
In the end, they lose because they get comfortable with the ordinary.
They don’t bother to learn anything else or do anything different. This is a major issue as naturally the world changes.
Right now we’re in the midst of automation, replacing a lot of our workers with robots. A lot of people will be out of jobs in the next several years.
It’s sad, yes. Some people blame automation for it. But complaining or playing the victim doesn’t help. This change has been happening for a while now. Even I’ve seen it and I consume very little latest news.
It goes to show that what is standard right now will change even more the further others innovate and be creative.
It’s about time others start adapting as well.
As such there is no room for quitters, complainers, or people who refuse to grow themselves.
They will be replaced and continue to be replaced until they change.
Everything comes at a risk in our lives. We drive cars, even though every day there is at least one car accident somewhere.
There’s even a small portion of US citizens that get killed by cows every year.
My point is that doubters are individuals who don’t want to take risks. In the end, these people deep down have some sort of fear holding them back.
Whether that’s a fear of failure, or anxiety from doing something different, doubters are people in the middle of the road. They are simply held back.
Doubt can be managed and doubters can grow themselves when they are willing to push past their emotions and break down blockades in their way.
However I’m talking about those who actually stay. They don’t bother to change and they doubt themselves.
Doubting one aspect of changing can be managed. For example if you doubt your abilities to be a salesperson, you can always find work being a manager, an engineer, or many other things.
But those who specifically doubt their abilities to change don’t get anywhere. They are stuck much like the quitters, except they know better.
To fix that is to grow from it. Once more, find what exactly is the fear that holds these individuals back. It’s not a matter of leveraging pain points, that’s manipulation.
But encouraging those who doubt their abilities, it pays off over time.
Lastly is critics. The individuals who are bold with their opinion and say where they stand.
Every person and every thing has a critic.
And even though that’s alright, the most important thing is to actually move past that.
The difference between an opinion and a critic is simply that. We obviously are allowed opinions, but we aren’t subjecting ourselves to the same person over and over again.
There are billions of other people, we have options to listen to other people. Not to mention we can try many different products out. There’s variety.
Critics are the people that linger. That subject themselves to watch or do something they don’t like. They repeat this process constantly and refuse to change or grow from the experience.
Absolutely, there will be people you won’t agree with. I attended the 6th annual Brain-a-Thon hosted by John Assaraf a few months ago and one guy made this comment, “is the brainwashing done yet?” To one of my friends.
Not every person has to agree with John, or even like him. However the thing with critics is they simply won’t let go. They will continue to cling and not move on.
Having opinions is natural. We all see people differently not to mention our views of products and services along with companies that provide them vary. But to sit there and criticize constantly makes no sense.
It doesn’t help you.
Not once has there been a statue erected for a critic.
Because a critic doesn’t get anywhere.
Begin To Grow
To improve ourselves is to get past those four basic things.
- We learn to mimic, but strive to be authentic and build a name for ourselves.
- We learn to not give up, but understand the risks and go forth anyway.
- We learn to have confidence, to identify our fears and address them.
- We learn to avoid clinging to judgement, to forgive, move on, and continue our path.
Self improvement is a process of growing and letting those things go. By all means we will continue to be growing, but we work hard on being less like the thief, the quitter, the doubter, and the critic.
To your growth!
Eric S Burdon