I’m going to give it to you straight.
Not everything is going my way.
For the past several weeks — in fact, ever since I have started this series — I’ve been kind of lying to myself.
The reason why I think that I’ve been doing that is because I started to ask myself some questions and look at the month and a half of progress that I have made since I started.
And what I saw was the development of my skill along with what it is I have been doing. And all I have to say about it is:
While everything certainly isn’t burning to the ground, they sure as fuck aren’t developing as much either.
Let me give it to you straight.
I need to get better. I need to discover more about myself. I need to get stronger at developing the habits that I want in my life.
Have you felt like this before?
This unease in your stomach, even when things are kind of going your way.
Because I’m quite familiar with it.
I’ve been down this road before and every time I walk down it, I need to learn something.
And I think for me this time it’s that I need to get better. I’ve been getting softer, more repetitive.
What about you?
It’s clear something needs changing and the first step towards getting better at something is to look back at what you learned. Over all the years I’ve been writing, I’ve learned some things at various points.
My question is have you been reapplying these things in your practice? Why or why not?
For me I stopped. And I have absolutely no reason why.
So if you are in the same boat as me, don’t beat yourself up about it or get into your head. Instead let’s both commit to practicing what we learned before.
The second step towards getting better at something is to check out other peoples work.
What are other people in your niche doing?
What are the people you are aspiring for doing that you aren’t?
These are important questions to be asking because it gives you an idea of what you could or must do.
Comparison is a double-edged sword.
It can kill you if you let it limit your abilities. I could look at the other successful people who are earning more money than me and have larger audiences and drag myself down.
But if you set that aside and realize that you too can be in that same position — from the loyal and warm audience to having the resources to achieve (faults and all) — then you can grow. You can develop those skills with ease.
In my example, I believe I’ve been coming off as too straight and narrow. It sounds like everything is going my way when in reality it isn’t.
I still struggle to get any kind of conversation with people from any of my posts and emails.
I feel like I’m not contributing much to new perspectives of topics, making myself sound like so many others.
I also believe that my branding still needs a lot of work as well in order for me to get anywhere.
These are not small problems that I can fix in a few days. I think these will take a lot of time and effort and it comes back to learning what I can do better. What I should do differently.
And for that it’s looking back and seeing what sort of trends we are setting for ourselves.
All of this came from me taking time to look at other peoples work. Look at it critically not just to consume but to see what they are doing.
How do they style their videos if they make any?
What sort of things do they talk about?
What is driving them this way?
This is all important because you can learn things from that. Not to copy it of course, but to grow from it.
The final step is to plan all of that out and to commit to it. Last night, I wrote up a list of things that I want to be achieving each week. I’ve been getting into a pretty good rhythm for doing tasks and what even goes into my daily tasks as well.
This is all key for me because I want to be clearing through that list as quickly and effectively as possible.
From there, I can focus on the other things that really drive my growth.
That’s my plan that I intend to create.
For you it might be different. You may focus all your activities on one theme. Perhaps you set up a scheduler and commit to a timed schedule to do certain things.
Whatever works for you, make it up and stick to it. Make changes when you need to and continue to follow through with it.
I know I am one to talk. After all, there are so many things that I do on and off (*cough* Youtube channel *cough*). However, I’m committed to making this work.
I need to get better and that means pushing myself in ways that scare me or that I have resistances for. And that means making videos, focusing on better content for you all, and more.
I’ve always know the road to growth is challenging. I wasn’t expecting to achieve greatness or anything after three years of work. But if you want to even have a chance, you’ll need to aim higher than where you are aiming at right now.
To your growth!
Eric S Burdon
Yesterday was another grind-fest but one of the prominent things that I reminded myself yesterday was the work that I’m doing doesn’t take up all that much time to do than I realize.
It’s for this reason why I think it’s important for me to make adjustments and changes to how I am doing things. I’m realizing that some of the things I’m doing isn’t what is helping me to grow and develop further.
Things need to be changing in how I do things and also in how I present things as well moving forward.