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How To Share Your Success

And not look like an ass doing it.

This morning, was a good day waking up to 31 notifications on here mostly pertaining to one of my more recent posts. It warms my heart and it feels like I’ve come a long way from getting abysmal results.

And so I went to twitter to talk about my success. That I feel that I’ve created content that’ll grow me further as a writer.

And let me tell you. It feels really good.

I feel really good.

But for so many other people, they may see this as a form of gloating. That I have all of this success and I’m being an ass about it.

While it’s true that all of the words on the internet are up for interpretation — in terms of tone — I believe there is an appropriate way to be sharing our successes and achievements without looking like a complete dick.

In fact, we can create an environment where sharing our success can bolster peoples confidence and lift people up.

Why Share Success

All of our successes come in the form of story-telling. From a simple tweet that I posted above to a full-fledged speech that you’d listen to from Goal Cast or the hundreds of other motivational video creators.

What these stories bring is variety and diversity. There are many people with different backgrounds that have all achieved various degrees of success. From the big name actors, celebrities, athletes, and entrepreneurs down to the indie writer or artist.

Sharing these stories is helpful for a variety of reasons outside of showing that no matter the circumstances people can find success. Each person experiences through life and to get to that point is different every time.

What those stories reveal is that to have success there are a variety of values and methods to obtain it. And understanding ways to get there can motivate and inspire people. Furthermore, these stories can provide roadmaps in which people can put them together, follow them, and develop their own path from those plans.

All of these things don’t apply to the big success stories that so many of us consume. Even the small successes like the one I experienced helped me and can help others too.

When Does Success Turn To Gloating?

But success can get to us. It’s an addictive force and even when we experience it we can still look like an ass. You could also call this gloating.

Of course, our desire to talk about success stems from our own self-confidence. We love talking about the good things that we do. Some of us may even go as far as drumming it up as a big deal to satisfy our own ego.

But it comes to a point that reminding people or showing off our accomplishments does more harm than good. Sure our successes are great but if we made them off of the backs of other people it undermines those peoples efforts.

If we did something all by ourselves there comes a point where talking about our successes turns into an ass.

So what exactly is that point? When do we cross the line where talking about our success turns to gloating?

Last year, Inc released a nice list that lines up with what I’m talking about but also expands as well. This would be a good set of guidelines for talking about successes.

The idea behind it is to show your efforts and explain in detail. Or at the very least getting people to understand the context of it. While not that many people know I’m a writer, most know I’ve been around here for a while.

A year in fact.

Understanding that gives more context that what I’ve achieved was not something easy. Not to mention the fact I’ve been writing for three years also shows that this was hard work for me.

While some people may see this as gloating, I believe the biggest point when you are crossing the line is if you have the need to remind people. That or if you are inflating it without looking at the facts.

Getting 31 notifications on Medium is good to see for me. I’m grateful for the engagement that I am getting.

But I realize to get to that point, I had to take my writing a step farther. I had to spend more time on it as opposed to 15 or 20 minutes. I needed to pause and breathe, gather my thoughts, and buckle down.

At the end of the day though this is another spike in my work. It’s great, but there’s no sense in me milking it day in and day out. I don’t need a certificate or to remind people of that accomplishment constantly.

Because as much as I am a Burdon, I’m at least not a total ass.

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