Anxiety is a disorder that affects well over 40 million American adults every year. It’s one of the most common mental disorders that people have today and understanding it is crucial.
Thankfully there are many researchers who have looked into anxiety. It’s through this particular research where we can also discover why people are so impatient, even when they suffer from anxiety.
According to Skinner’s definition of anxiety, anxiety is the feeling of not knowing what to do. However that doesn’t quite cover it. If someone was stuck and didn’t know what to do, they’d simply put it out of mind.
Instead, that definition is partially true.
Anxiety is not knowing what to do next, but also knowing that there is a solution out there.
Like a word that’s on the tip of your tongue or uncertainty, you know that there is a way out of a problem but you also feel trapped.
It’s for this particular reason why people who suffer from anxiety can be impatient. They rush to conclusions to hopefully soothe their anxiety.
Furthermore anxiety, much like being impatient, can stem from any sort of problem.
You might be anxious because you don’t know what’s the next step to your business growth is. Or perhaps you made a mistake at work and you’re not sure how to fix it.
Anxiety grows mostly from the sign of the problem rather than the problem itself.
Understanding this is crucial as when you are in a state of anxiety, most people often rush to cover it up. And people tend to do a piss poor job at that.
How To Crush Anxiety
The reason why people do a piss poor job at covering up a mistake is that anxiety is actually a tool to propel us into learning something.
Why this matters is because people want to position themselves as if they know everything.
We want to be right all the time and to do things flawlessly. The truth is that’s impossible. We will always be making mistakes.
Furthermore, once we accept that fact and try to learn something, it’s going to take time.
- A person isn’t a natural born liar. They practice lying.
- And a person isn’t a natural born leader. They grow into that role by picking up skills and learning.
Those things take time to develop and each skill has their own benefits, whether it harms or benefits people is up to the user. This will most likely be where our impatient nature can dwell as we want to learn faster or give up on the good quality skills when it gets tougher.
As you can see, a person’s anxiety and impatient nature feed off of one another.
Anxiety at best can spur us to do something. However if we are not careful, we may opt for a quick solution or not bother learning new skills.
We create pot holes that we can easily fall into despite our optimism and belief in ourselves.
Thus it turns into a much larger problem all because we didn’t accept a few realities.
In order to crush our anxieties, at least in this context, is to admit that we don’t know everything. That we have to learn, and develop our skills further.
Of course, we may not have that luxury and that’s honestly where it never hurts to be honest and up front.
To admit to mistakes and make a commitment to do better next time.
Anxiety Is A Mind Game
I understand that there is more to anxiety than this. It’s a broad topic with a lot of research done on it.
However it’s still fair to say that anxiety is a mind game and prompts us to understand ourselves more.
When we don’t, anxiety can develop and can cause serious damage to us.
At the same time, when we learn to tolerate our anxiety, we can curb being impatient as well as we realize it takes time to develop skills and that we’re not some all knowing person.
Try it out if you do suffer from anxiety.
To your growth!
Eric S Burdon
This post is part of an 3 month writing challenge that I’m committing myself to. Every day for 3 months, I’ll be writing articles with specific criteria in mind. You can learn all about my reasoning as well as what that criteria is right here. This is 73 of 91 of this series.
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