Struggling Building Confidence Or Taking Action? Try This Out Instead.
Progress is made with but a single action to move forward.
No doubt throughout your life there were several times where you struggled building your confidence or taking action. From building a business, writing that book or article, to talking to people or going to events. There are always those periods of uneasiness.
You may even still be plagued with them today, to the same extent that you avoid those things. Or perhaps you come up with excuses half way through and give up. Either way I’ve been there before. We all have.
Confidence and taking action are simple concepts on paper and I could be talking about how easy it all is.
But the truth is I’d be lying.
It’s not something so simple, after all you are wrestling with yourself: your worst critic and rival.
Instead, I’d like to provide a backdoor option for all those people who struggle a lot. It’s something that I found recently and this particular approach has helped me immensely.
Just Do It
That principal is simple: just do it.
I’m serious.
Whatever you want to do, go and do it. No formal plans. No motivational pep talk. Simply raw action.
Whatever you’ve drummed up in your head, it doesn’t even stand up to doing what you want to do right out the door. Ditching a plan can feel invigorating and you can learn something incredible with it. Remember “Chewbacca Mom”? That Facebook live she started was spur of the moment.
My point is, raw action can cause you to explode in a good way. Of course long-term, you need reasons and a plan in order to maintain it.
But people place their breaks early on in the development of a habit. They don’t want to slip, fall and tumble down.
This makes a lot of sense to me when you look at both new years resolutions and even network marketing.Those are both things where people get excited at the beginning, and then leave.
I even find this in myself. I’ve taken this advice and started vlogging again. I could do better, but as time went on, I’m putting more care and consideration. Furthermore in those vlogs I’ve been pushing myself more than usual and I still feel the ease of stepping back into what’s comfortable.
I believe we do this for a few reasons. It’s for this reason raw action is a smart approach as well.
The Comfort Of Comfortable
One of the big reasons people slip back into what’s comfortable is that it’s comfortable. We buy our excuses when we don’t plan or break things down. Raw action can help though as it’s sheer momentum on yourself. It’s much like where you tell yourself that you’re going to do something anyway despite what you tell yourself.
Like I said above this method is only good for the short-term. It’s not wise to brute force your way through everything. But it can get you over the initial hump.
Going back to my vlogging, it was spur of the moment. I made no plans and no scripts, yet here I am pushing my skills and talking with more clarity. That’s one thing that I’ve noticed about myself is that I’m more collected.
I recall making the videos in December there was a lot of editing. This was mainly due to the fact I had a script and used it to keep my thoughts on track. But now I have to do that in somewhat real time.
It’s because of this and my desire to make something of my life that doing the raw action has propelled me forward. But now that we are a week in, it’s feeling repetitive for me. Such is the case when you run a daily vlog, however I’m still excited for it and it’s prompting me to be more creative.
They Follow The Trends But Lack Commitment
The other reason we slip back to comfort is the lack of commitment. With people who set new years resolutions, those individuals are people who do want to change.
That’s a good thing.
But at the same time that they want change, they also resist it by coming up with excuses or they lose their drive.
It’s where raw action can kick in. As I’ve been suggesting, it’s like a kick start to get yourself pumped up, but also to find purpose. That purpose alone is your motivator and you can plan around that.
Those people who go through those cycles lack that purpose. They bought into the excitement, which is alright. But that excitement dwindles once you sink into the work. That’s where excuses come in. For many they buy into that and leave, hence the cycle.
Commitment stems from our ability to do the action, so the best course of action is to go ahead. Write that book or article, and stop caring about your thoughts or others.
With being lazy and procrastinating it’s the same thing. By the time you get to that point, you understand what’s required of you.
When you go through the motions, you can discover more about yourself.
By vlogging I’m grounding my roots into speaking better and articulating my thoughts. I think that it’s interesting despite the fact few people still check out the videos. What that means to me is I need to work smarter.
I don’t let the poor stats drain me because that’s not the point of the vlog. Through the raw action of actively recording myself I know what I want to do. It’s what compels me to say what I say in those videos and why I don’t get bothered with the fact it’s repetitive.
When you’re building an empire, the work gets repetitive.
Instead, make the commitment to embrace that, enjoy the process and keep working on it.
We Learn From Trial And Error
The big thing to realize here is that we learn through trial and error. So when we create excuses and buy into them, we stop learning. Things go at a stand still when we actually stop.
It’s a bad thing because we’re not learning. Even if you fail, you gain something.
You won’t learn that fact unless you move forward and make those mistakes or succeed. So it’s important for us to ignore our brains from time to time and follow through with whatever we set out to do.
It’s not a method you want to use long term, but it could put you back into the cycle long enough for you to find a motivator.
To find a why, a reason to continue to push forward.
And if the experience blows up in your face before that, you learn something. It’s an adventure and an experience.
To your growth!
Eric S Burdon