Take A Chill Pill And Relax

A simple rule that applies in many parts of our lives and works.

[The purpose of this article is to show how this rule applies to various parts of our lives. I’d like to back this up with verifiable facts that focus on relationships, self-exploration, and mindset. I want people to know that it’s okay if they are lost for now. Take a chill pill and relax.]

Yesterday was a pretty big day for me emotionally and even now I’m still processing it.

I had a long and very enlightening conversation with someone. It was someone that got me to look more at the work that I’m producing, how I view my life, and where exactly do I want to go.

I’ll admit that I do have some idea of where I want to go. I want to help people as best as I can and I’d like to do that through my writing and the business that I’m developing. But in many other areas, I’m not all that clear.

And while it can be a source of panic for other people, I’m not trying to let that get to me.


Because of a simple rule: take a chill pill and relax.

Another way you can spin it is simply “be patient.”

This rule doesn’t apply to just our careers though. Looking at other corners of our lives, showing this level of patience is relevant in other parts of our lives.

Keep in mind that I’m not suggesting that we sit back and do nothing. In fact, patience isn’t about being dormant but rather observing and strengthening ourselves. Applying this rule in various areas of our lives can be crucial in enriching areas of our lives long term. You merely need to be patient and watch it develop.

Chill Pills Help Relationships

Not only in intimate relationships but professional and friendships, patience becomes a form of kindness towards others. It’s a good friend who is listening to you attentively or even the person who is working to understand you when two people disagree with something.

And there is evidence of that. In a 2014 study conducted by Debra R. Comer and Leslie E. Sekerka, expressing patience can lead to one being more forgiving, empathetic, cooperative and equitable. This is further backed up by a 2008 study where participants were asked to place money into a pot. The money would then be doubled and redistributed. Patient people in this scenario offered more than those who were stingier.

What these studies show is a sense of selflessness. That patient people are able to roll with the punches. They understand that while there are problems, disagreements, or failures, that if they remain patient and selfless, they’ll bounce back eventually. Or maybe they’ll learn something deeper and more meaningful that they can use for the future.

All of this only improves relationships with the people around this person because it allows the person to better understand those they engage with. Whether it’s briefly or for a longer period of time.

Chill Pills Help In Exploring Your Depths

But another reason I feel that patience helps relationships is that that person is learning more about themselves. Whether that’s through the work they are doing, or where they want to go, self-exploration is equally as important as building momentum around us as well.

The Chopra Center mentioned simply:

When you look at what it means to have patience, you’re ultimately talking about dealing with your own thoughts and emotions.

In terms of self-exploration, they’re not wrong. How we think, act and experience life is based on the intentions and desires that we project to the world. And to do that boils down to an understanding of ourselves and the ability to have patience. It’s paying attention to the actions that you’re doing and how you are feeling about them.

It’s for these particular reasons why I’m not all that concerned about my mental state. I’m currently in the midsts of paying attention to how I’m writing. I’m paying attention to how I feel over the course of the day and noting emotions and thoughts.

This all translates to deeper work in my writing, but also in my overall life.

After all, when things are stalling on the outside, it’s key for us all to work inside.

Chill Pills Help Our Mental Health

But by extension of understanding and developing ourselves, we can also be improving our own mental health. For some people, it can be in finding balance, but for others, it can be recovering from psychological conditions as well.

In this day and age, many individuals rely on pills or devices in order to recover from mental conditions. However Alia Crum, Ph.D. and Abraham Verghese, MD believe there are other measures that we can take. On a medical standpoint, they believe that bedside manners influence a lot on patient’s health, there simply aren’t enough studies to fully support that claim.

But moving away from the medical field we can see that patience helps in recovering or at the very least achieving balance in our lives. More often than not, losing patience can lead to us being unhappy. We rush into things without thinking, or maybe we don’t take the time to understand someone. It can lead to conflict and create other issues in our lives.

By finding our patience it provides those benefits I’ve discussed so far and many others. But more importantly, it allows us the room and opportunity to grow ourselves. After all, self-discovery is the act of balancing ourselves mentally too.

Patience is a virtue that many people understand but don’t know the extent of how much it affects our lives. We all need to learn it well and for good reason. Patience makes us more humble and appreciative individuals, which is exactly what we need in this day and age.

Entrepreneur, positive-minded. I used to say a lot, now I do a lot. Documenting my growth. Support me on Patreon: http://bit.ly/2pIEPFR

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