The Worst Question You Can Ask Someone Who Needs Help
Things can be simply said, but things aren’t always that simple.
Asking for help is a pain in the ass sometimes.
We get stuck in our heads thinking no one cares about our plight. Or perhaps asking for help isn’t really our thing.
It’s awkward, it’s weird, it makes us feel inferior and that we owe the people who decide to help us out. All around we feel bad about it despite this being a genuine reprieve and huge relief.
But probably one of the bigger reasons we don’t always ask for help, even when we need it, is because of people asking the worst question they could ask…
“Why don’t you just…”
Often posed by someone who barely understands the situation, they insert themselves into your life by asking this particular question. It could be framed in other ways like “Why not…” or “How come…” but it’s effect on ourselves is all just the same.
It’s a question followed by the person’s view of what you should be doing next. It’s easy to utter those words and frame it as concerned or trying to be helpful, but it’s more frustrating than not.
Here is why.
