Want To Be A Better Connecter With People? Do This

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“The deadlock will only be broken when each side learns to stand in each other’s shoes.”

Who could argue with something like this? Perspective-taking on this level makes sense in understanding people. It’s no wonder that people are quick to jump to that, myself included.

Not So Simple

In a recent study on perspective-taking couples who have been together for several years were asked about their significant others views and perspectives. From the 20 questions, they believed that on average 13 of those guesses were correct. The average, in reality, was 5 were right.

Even though these changes happen in spurts, we still can’t deny the fact that we change little by little. For better, or for worse.

So instead of trying to fit into peoples shoes or take on another perspective, I want to propose something else for us to better connect and grow relationships.


That is to listen to those around us.

“Judge not, for you would do the same in the exact same situation.”

I repeat it a lot because it’s a good one and a reminder. We shouldn’t honestly be filling the gaps with our own logic.

To Listen Carefully

A master conversationalist doesn’t fill the gaps. Instead they listen carefully to what the person is saying. They make sure they understand what the person is saying as well.

  • Understanding
  • Participate in active listening (repeating what the speaker said back)
  • Show a genuine interest in what the speaker is saying.
  • And more.

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