Why Are We So Impatient?

You tap your foot.

Look at your watch.

Then check your phone.

We’ve all done these before but a lot of us do this way too much while we wait.

Sure, some of us can bide our time and find solace in tapping our feet. But for others, it simply is too much to bear.

Like a kid having forced to wait in line, some times we want to run around and do something rather than sit in line.

Impatience is something that as a child is a trigger for us to do something to keep us entertained.

However as we grow older, impatience can develop into something else. Its sources can stem from us feeling frustrated, anxious, or stressed out.

These are simply byproducts of the underlying cause of us being impatient.

So why are we so impatient with certain things?

I know for myself I was excited that within a few years I’d be living on my own terms working with a network marketing company.

Or what if I managed to get that job as a financial advisor? An empty title sure, but with the pay I could be debt free in a few years.

The same could be said with me landing an accounting job.

A lot of us get into the headspace that things can get done very quickly.

We can climb out of debt in a few years or we can finish that project in a matter of months. But in reality, our sense of time is skewed.

It can take a decade or two to pay back student debt. Mine will supposedly take 10 years to pay in full.

Or it might take four months to finish that project properly.

In the end, our impatience can take many forms. Again some of us get flustered, stressed or anxious.

But some of us set very high expectations or we cut corners with little regard to the people we are affecting.

It’s because we want the dream.

And I don’t blame people for that.

I know for myself I’ve set some unrealistic expectations on myself. I’ve said a lot of stuff and didn’t follow up on it.

I didn’t practice what I was preaching.

Instead I was more fixated on the goal ahead and making big leaps as opposed to taking my time. Of course, you could argue that I was in a tough spot.

But come on.

If I managed to breathe and look at things realistically, I would’ve doubled down on the things that I did care about.

I would’ve cast aside the things that wasted my time.

Like chasing after the “occupation that pays me the most money.”

Instead, I’d explore myself and figure out what I really wanted to do.

I’d take my fucking time rather than jump head first into something that I just learned about.

I understand that some times you do need to do that. Richard Branson famously said:

“If somebody offers you an amazing opportunity but you are not sure you can do it, say yes — then learn how to do it later!”

But some times that amazing opportunity isn’t something that’s right for you.

I studied to be an accountant for 7 years only to realize I have no care for the occupation. It’s literally an occupation for the elite once you climb the “corporate ladder”.

I jumped into network marketing opportunities where I could realistically make more money than an accounting job.

There were many things I could’ve done, but I settled for this: an artist, a writer.

That’s not to say that there are no massively successful artists. But through this, I at least understood that it would take time.

I could chase the dream and maybe make it big in a few years.

Maybe.

But what’s more important is the journey and what it brings.

Don’t rush yourself

Yes we do make mistakes and we cut corners at times.

I understand the appeal of making it big and living a comfortable lifestyle.

But the one thing I learned through this hustle is that it should never be comfortable.

Instead there is always the next goal to achieve and to take in the rewards of reaching higher than before. It sounds like I’ll be working for the rest of my life and honestly that’s what it should be. Even the richest people in the world understand that to retain their wealth, they need to work at some capacity.

From this point, I’ll be enjoying the process and I’ll be taking my time.

There’s a lot of things that I need to do and if I truly want to reach something, I’ll work harder and smarter for it.

This is the mentality I wish for others to pick up and mold to their liking.

To your growth!

Eric S Burdon

This post is part of an 3 month writing challenge that I’m committing myself to. Every day for 3 months, I’ll be writing articles with specific criteria in mind. You can learn all about my reasoning as well as what that criteria is right here. This is 62 of 91 of this series.

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