Why Falling In Love With Failure Isn’t Bad
I woke up yesterday morning to see some email notifications from the freelance site I’ve been working on. Over the past few weeks, I’ve been trying to get a few more clients and found some.
They sent me over a test just to see if I would be a right fit for them and I did them with no hesitation.
Both of them accepted the articles but turned my offer down for future work.
When I read their messages I couldn’t help but smile and sigh.
It’s about time that I failed at something!
Don’t get me wrong, I wasn’t purposely looking to make mistakes and fail. When it’s all said and done, I’m a bit sad that I lost one particular client whom I enjoyed writing for.
However, setting aside that initial disappointment is key for entrepreneurs. You don’t want to dwell on past things that only slow your momentum.
Instead, you want to leverage those opportunities and find some tangible ways to grow.
And it’s from this aspect where it makes sense to have a sense of obsession for failure.
Not to the point where you are looking for it constantly, but that when it happens, you express gratitude for it. And in a sense love it when failure does happen.
Why Do This?
To first be able to see growth from failure and learn to love it is to see it’s potential.
A lot of people are quick to say that we need to embrace failure because of its ability to help us grow. That is true, however, it’s worth exploring that.
How exactly do we grow from failure?
How can we grow from failure?
Because not every failure that we experience grows us in the way that we want to.
I sent a message back to both of those clients, but I’m not expecting a response. I’d appreciate it if they did reply back to me, but I know there are other ways to grow.
Of course, the easiest way is getting rejected but being told why.
But failure is presented in many different ways and a lot of the time we’re not going to know what we can grow from.
It’s through this where failure teaches us to look more at ourselves and in a sense analyze our true potential. How we grow is based solely on how we think we failed and from there make a course of action.
I know that my writing isn’t always top notch. There are times where I think I’m into a piece but once I write it out, I lose interest or find it repetitive. I can always be improving in this fashion, by pushing myself to do more research. To let subject muddle in my head a bit more.
I feel from this experience that I should be paying more attention to my emotions about certain tasks, but also while I’m doing them. When do I feel like I’m forcing something? And when does it feel natural and progressive for me?
It’s ground-breaking revelations like these where we can see the allure of failure and embrace it further.
It Makes Us Realize We’re Human
Looking beyond the deep and meaningful lessons, another revelation that’ll occur is that we realize we’re human.
It’s obvious I know, but if you’re like me where you’re working on such a small scale, it’s hard to see what’s an actual failure and what’s a success.
Right now, my measurement of success is at the rate people are reading my work and how many clients I have.
So for me to fail in my mind is to be turned down for work, or to see a dwindling readership.
And since my readership is growing steadily, it’s not out of the question for me to feel like I haven’t failed in over a year.
And let me tell you, it does something to you.
It’s not like I had an inflated ego, but by not experiencing failure, it’s hard to say what you need to do to grow. It’s hard to see that when your viewership is growing, people showing appreciation for your work and no one is turning you down for anything.
It almost feels like you’re invincible, but still know that failure is bound to happen.
I like failure because it keeps me real and brings me back down to the ground in a sense. This is important because like so many others, we can get lost in our work and we can lose ourselves.
So failure can open our eyes on many levels than we might realize.
We’re Able To Recommit On A Deeper Level
We may not know the reason for why we fail at certain times, but with every failure we have, we are given an opportunity to recommit.
Of course, not everyone takes that opportunity. Hence why many see failure in a bad way.
But I know from my experiences every time I hit some kind of roadblock, it gave me an opportunity to change my thinking and recommit to something else.
But this act I feel is encouraging us to commit on a deeper level than before. Even in situations where we change our goals or our vision. No matter how dramatic the change we make is and what we tell ourselves, that message is always on a deeper level.
The level that we would like to be at moving forward in our lives.
Realizing this is a powerful reason for why we need to fall in love with failure. It brings us closer to who we truly wish to be at the moment in our lives.
So what’s not to love about failure?
Sure it can be brutal and harsher than on a level that I experienced yesterday, but I think deep down we all feel relieved when it happens. Not our masochistic side, but the side of us that wants to grow more and think about how to really do that.