Known as Victoria Day throughout most of Canada, it’s a day purely to celebrate the Queen’s birthday.
Although this day doesn’t hold much significance other than that, there was something else that caused a stir but a few days before.
The marriage of Prince Harry and Ms. Meghan Markle.
I’m sure it was a lovely ceremony.
Perhaps a wedding that people will talk about for months to come with plenty of news coverage.
I’m sure the bride and groom looked nice as well.
But in the end, I wouldn’t know.
After all, I didn’t watch it. Nor do I really care at all about it.
And I’m cool with that.
Sure I caught some glimpses of the wedding. That couldn’t be helped with a TV blaring from downstairs on a Saturday morning. However outside of the few glimpses of a man playing a cello and hearing the “I do”s (objectively the best part), I spent my time working.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m happy for the couple as a person should be for any married couple.
But I don’t care for the process. Nor do I care about the fact they are royalty which means plenty of news fodder.
That only means that there will be more news and people swooning and talking about the marriage ceremony. But I don’t dwell on those things nor will I talk much about it outside of this scope of thinking.
Instead, I focus on something else that’s more important. Hence why I don’t care about the ceremony itself.
I Care About What Follows
Instead, I care a lot about what follows as a result of this. I can imagine in a lot of these cases this event will not amount to much of anything. Ever since we established governments, monarchs and their offspring have achieved a more unique celebrity aura to them and that’s it.
This is further solidified as many people have said these people are nothing but figureheads with no power. Prominent, yet their power comes from the fact they are the only royal family.
But I don’t want to get into that.
Honestly because I don’t keep up with the royalty, and frankly I don’t care.
That’s because I care more about what follows.
To answer this, I specifically ask this question:
What do I learn from this?
As humans, we are always looking for benefits. It’s not heartless of me to say that we leverage from those around us. When something doesn’t benefit us we simply don’t care or show interest.
That being said, even a small benefit — like being entertained — is enough to make us sit there and watch. It’s the reason why Youtube is popular and many of us spend time on that or on social media in general.
But by asking ourselves that question, or questions in general, we can begin to piece together why we indulge in those things. Not only do we understand it, we can begin to see things in a different life which in turn can help us in a number of ways.
This all comes back to me being indifferent about the wedding. I don’t care about it. I’d like to know if anything else comes from it aside from a plethora of news coverage that generally doesn’t help anyone. Of course, this bars people who missed it and want to see it.
But for me, the question I mentioned above lifts the veil over what’s actually important and what isn’t. This in turn helps me to better understand myself and what I should focus on. Furthermore it doesn’t drain me of my energy.
The Power Of Questions
In 2016, Inga Stasiulionyte found herself in the US training for the Olympics in Beijing. Working as a life coach on the side during her 20 year career as a professional athlete, she shared her story of asking questions.
When she arrived in the US she was both excited and terrified. For the first time she wasn’t near her coach and she had no clue how to train.
It got overwhelming as she was unsure how many laps she needed to run and what sort of warm ups she needed to do. As an Olympic athlete, all she was familiar with was following directions. And this was her first time she was on her own.
From that experience there are two things we can take from it.
- The lack of asking questions, or asking the wrong questions can be overwhelming and draining.
- But when we ask the right ones, we put ourselves further in control.
Inga Stasiulionyte was overwhelmed and confused about what to do. This is akin to us worrying about things that out of our control. People complain about the economy, stocks, politics, and more which are completely out of our control. At least in terms of an individual person influencing such a massive thing.
This only drains us as we dwell on it. Much like indulging in things that don’t matter to us or make no impact on the world.
But at the same time, Stasiulionyte learned something valuable as well:
Questions can set you free.
By asking the right kind of questions at the right time can help us to deeply understand ourselves and remove ourselves from those base indulgences. Questions can help us to find meaning and purpose in our actions and what we want to be achieving.
Questions have helped me to realize what’s important.
That isn’t watching two strangers getting married, but identifying what I value and what’s truly important to me.
That happened to be me chatting a little with my mom before going out for a morning walk.
We are not all knowing beings and pretending to be like that will only make us look like idiots when we screw up. Questions in that respect can help us guide ourselves towards enlightenment.
But by asking deeper questions on our own actions rather than on what to do, we can learn what we value and should spend time on. Furthermore when we look at events we can already learn how to leverage the event in our favour.
The reason I don’t care about the wedding is because it holds no significance. As a man who is working at some capacity every day, there is not a lot of meaning behind these particular types of holidays. Furthermore the wedding, though nice from the glimpse I caught, is nothing I care for either.
Instead I’ll focus on what matters to me and to grow myself further.
To your growth!
Eric S Burdon